Congratulations on your engagement! Now what comes next? No matter where you are in the planning process it is always a good idea to pause, take a deep breath, then review and refine your wedding vision. The key to planning your dream wedding begins with the creation of a wedding mission or "vision" statement. This can be done even if you have already reserved a venue and some of your vendors. If you sit down with your partner and go through the steps, I promise this will save you time, energy, money and a great deal of stress.
Why do you need a mission statement? Just like a business, a mission statement gives you guidance and provides direction for your wedding planning process; Think of it as your Google Map! A mission statement is the core of your wedding vision.
Another way to think about this would be to ask "what is your purpose?" Why do you want to have a wedding? Working together as a couple, take some time to write your own personal and unique mission statement that is authentic to the two of you. Your mission statement will benefit you in many ways.
It puts things in perspective. It gives you permission to say "no" to things that don't fit your vision or "no" to things you don't really want. This is a great way to keep your wedding from being hijacked by other well-meaning people.
It keeps you on track. You will have a plan for the wedding the two of you want.
Reduces unnecessary expenses and saves you a lot of time. You will decide what you want to spend your money on based on whether or not it fits your vision.
This is your wedding so if there are things you really want but they don’t fit your vision exactly, you will decide if you want to make some exceptions.
One of the best reasons to write your mission statement is to reduce your stress. You will know where you are going so you can move confidently and calmly in the right direction.
With internet searches, Pinterest and a multitude of wedding websites it is easy to become overwhelmed with choices. A mission statement will help narrow those choices, streamlining the process.
Here are a few ideas to get you started on your own mission statement. Once you start the writing process you will come up with your own ideas. Sometimes it helps to write down every idea that comes to mind then you can go back and edit until you come up with just the right thing. As long as it is true to the two of you it is valid.
To bring your family and friends together to reconnect, celebrate, and have an unforgettable experience.
To tell your love story
To share traditions of your culture or religion
You want to have the best party of the year
You want to have the lavish and beautiful fairytale wedding you have always dreamed of.
It is important to understand your budget. The hard part for many couples is talking about it. Traditions have changed; the full financial responsibility doesn't necessarily fall on the shoulders of the bride’s family anymore. It is important to include everyone who might also have a financial role in the budget discussion.
This is what you need to know:
Your total budget; how much do you have to spend?
The players? Who will be providing financial support for your wedding?
When will the funds be available to you? You will need to have a portion of the funds available right away. Wedding professionals generally require a deposit to reserve the date.
Put together a preliminary guest list. It is important to have the approximate number of guests before you take time out of your busy life for venue tours. It is a waste of time to tour a place that is going to be too small. If you reserve a space that is too large it could be more expensive to rent and to decorate plus you could lose the intimate feel to empty space. This is a good place to refer to your mission statement, especially if family opinions on the size of the guest list differ from your vision.
You will each need a sheet of paper & a pen. Do the first half of this step separately, prioritize the following categories from 1 - 11 based on your individual opinion. #1 being the most important to you.
Now compare your rankings. Work together now to prioritize the list. Your wedding planner will be able to help if you need some guidance. Go back to your mission statement if you are having trouble. How do each of these items fit into your vision? This exercise is really helpful to determine how you will spend your money. Use your budget wisely, choose the things that are most important to you.
Create a vision board either by collecting things in a notebook or creating a Pinterest board. Use this for inspiration and to share your vision with your wedding planner and your vendors.
Stay true to you! Don’t feel you have to do exactly what you see on Pinterest. Don’t make decisions based on what someone else wants or because it's the latest trend. This is your wedding. There are so many ways to create a beautiful wedding to fit most every budget. Use these inspirations as a starting point.
Talk to friends who have been married recently. Ask what challenges they encountered during the planning process and what worked really well for them. Think about the weddings you have attended and those where you were in. Consider what you liked and disliked about those weddings. Think beyond the décor, think about things like the schedule, flow, parking, venue size & venue suitability for the size and activities.
Now you know your budget, you have prioritized your wedding elements and you have a preliminary total number of guests. You are ready to meet with a wedding planner and begin the process of finding the perfect team of wedding professionals for your big day. I would love to meet you and get to know more about your love story and your wedding vision.
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